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The “look”

Every woman knows the look that can be confused for no other

Unmistakable in a man’s face telling her she is his favorite, most adored human

In it she can see herself reflected in the windows to his heart.

That reflection is admiration, love, passion, surety. This is where he wants to be.

A delightful unexpected jolt , or born from a curious ember

Gifted briefly or enduring through the decades

The look is everything, encompassing all unspoken words and feelings

She recognises the instant it dies, she is no longer the reason for his smile

Left to suffer the pain of it’s banishment,                         Leaving only a memory tattooed on her soul


How will you look at your girl tonight?


Photo by Tinou Bao “The Look of Love” CC BY 2.0

What a Real Woman Thinks

So it’s a given that men and women spend a lot of time thinking about each other. In my own musings recently I noticed that men often describe their ideal women in a hypocritical confusing way. If you are a man and you can brave some truths, read on. If not, you have some growing up to do because this is how a real woman thinks.


“I can’t stand it when women wear tons of make-up”…yet when exactly that type walks past you, you turn into Linda Blair (The Exorcist)and your necks are capable of turning 360 degrees all of a sudden with no visible structural damage to your spine. And when your girlfriends go sans make-up and natural at home they have “let themselves go”???

“No man considers a loose woman as girlfriend/wife material”…then what’s up with the porn watching which is training your brain to become turned on and excited by a woman that will do and let you do anything to her body? The women chosen for porn have nothing in common with normal women at all that is why they are paid vast amounts of money (more than men in the industry) to do the job. They are “NOT” enjoying it. I would suggest that maybe this is teaching men to undervalue the excitement and newness of their relationships especially when the honeymoon phase is over, as they are always chasing a high that in reality should become a real burning love which is the natural evolution of a real relationship. Men are unaware that they are also physically not seeing a real representation of a woman. This may be shocking to many guys out there but boobs are not meant to stick out of your chest defying gravity and they are not meant to be perfectly round. Also vagina’s are just like penis’s, faces, eyes, hands, feet – everyone’s is different.

“Women who have casual sex or many sexual partners are perceived as easy”…perhaps the worst one of all. Considering that in the male world, the number of sexual encounters you have had is directly proportionate to how much “game”, “skill”, “swag”, “legendary status” etc… you have, why then would it be a turn off in a woman to act in the same way?

These examples are only a few, there are plenty more. I don’t want to offend men, I want you to “think”, I want you to know that we know and that today one woman chose not to ignore. I am aware that somehow I sound like a raging feminist for pointing out the obvious but  that is just it, I’m not a feminist just confused with the hypocrisy. And while the “men will be men” excuse exists, in today’s society women are not accepting this anymore, we want “real men” and real men have values that coincide with their actions. Are you one of them?


Photo by Ian D. Keating “The Art of Manliness” CC BY 2.0

If You Are A Nice Guy, Click Here

Bad Boy
Nice Guy





I was browsing around at 1 am, as you do, and stumbled upon a brilliant post at One Gentleman’s Perspective titled A Good Man Is Not Hard To Find, If You Truly Desire One: II this insightful post addresses the all too common complaint that a good man is hard to find. The author urges women to ask themselves, are they a good woman? and suggests that they over look the good guys, who are out there, in favor of the bad boys who will get them nowhere.

Since this is a blog for men, I will give you my take from a woman’s perspective on the matter. Continue reading If You Are A Nice Guy, Click Here

When She’s Into you, but you aren’t that Into Her

A recent visitor to my blog enjoyed my post 10 Signs She’s Into you and suggested I write a post for advice for men who aren’t that into her I found it lovely that he was concerned with how to go about it in a sensitive way and I realise that a lot of men don’t know how to do it. Continue reading When She’s Into you, but you aren’t that Into Her

Wanna get out of the doghouse fast?

Apologise  This is probably the one thing men get wrong consistently. Most of you don’t even realise we are expecting an apology (If she looks angry, consider it a possibility) and those of you who do, wait too long to give it. Don’t drag it out by making excuses, nursing your pride and being stubborn, none of this will help you.

Continue reading Wanna get out of the doghouse fast?

They’re just “effing” Flowers!

Very rarely do I wake up at 1am out of a deep sleep with an idea for a post. This must mean that its important!. If I leave this life and could impart one piece of advice to men for women “give her  flowers”. I suspect im needing some flowers in my life right now.

Continue reading They’re just “effing” Flowers!