“Modern” men don’t shoot yourselves in the foot

I don’t care if we are living in the age of feminism and gender equality, we are not built like you. We can’t ignore or stamp down emotion, we will not feel and fail to express. We need to feel beautiful, wanted, secure and adored no matter how fast stereotypes are changing. Your sense of self will always come from another place and your needs are and always will be very different to our own.

We are more sensitive, not as and practical, hard to read, sexy and emotional, you are not meant to understand. We are different creature altogether and I don’t consider this a weaknesses. This is what a makes a woman. Women are the glue.

I will not apologise or morph into a man to feel validated and I will not turn an empathetic brain into a systemic brain to follow or make life easy for you. If you want a man, with the benefits of a woman, good luck with that but you won’t have it all.

Gentlemen who understand and appreciate the difference and know how to treat a lady like a lady…. winning.

Rise of the Cougar

We are in the age of the Cougar and I couldn’t be more chuffed, in fact I am one. I’m excited that women over 30 are looking fucking great and looking after themselves because when I was a kid a 30-40 year old mum was not hot.

Imagine my surprise 7 or so years ago when I broke up with my then partner and discovered the world of singledom for the first time since the age of 17. I have always been monogamous and have always had a steady boyfriend so suddenly being back, no scrap that, just being in the “available” category was a strange new experience at the age of 33.

I started going out with girlfriends and found out that thanks to some good Colombian genes, I look younger than I am (thanks mum), and the Cougar phenomenon, I was getting hit on a lot by younger men. The places I was frequenting were a nice mixture of ages so it wasn’t like I was the only 33 yr old in a room of young uns, but these were the only guys brave enough to approach.

Well young guys I really like you back. What is not to love?

  • You are in your sexual prime, we are in our sexual prime.
  • You are brave and brash, we are tired of men our age or older who stop making an effort.
  • Young men are sweet, eager and not set in their ways, older men in general are.
  • Young guys see an intelligent, sexy experienced woman, older men see a woman who is falling out of bloom.
  • Younger guys aren’t out there with expectations or stereotypes about gender, or age for that matter.

Hey I don’t make the rules but in general that’s the way it seems to work and if mature men have headed for younger pastures since oh… forever, then why the hell shouldn’t we? I did and I’m not sorry.

DISCLAIMER before all the fabulous mature men, women with fabulous mature men or people who get along just fine with their same age partner out there complain, this post is not about you.